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Tips for Dealing with Grief During Holidays

Holidays can be a difficult time for people that have had a loss. There is no right or wrong way to handle the holidays. Some may wish to follow family traditions, while others may choose to change. When we are already experiencing the great stress of bereavement, the additional strains of the holidays can create unbearable pressure. The key to coping with grief during the holidays is to find the way that is right for you. Suggested ways to prepare in advance.

Plan for any approaching holidays.

Be aware that this might be a difficult time for you. The additional stress may affect you emotionally, cognitively, and physically; this is a normal reaction. It is helpful to be as prepared as possible for these feelings.

Recognize that holidays won’t be the same.

It is likely impossible to keep everything the same as it was, so try to be kind with your expectations about what is possible. Doing things a bit differently can acknowledge the change while preserving continuity with the past.

Take care of yourself.

Plan relaxation time. Do things to help you relax such as warm baths, watch movies, read books, play golf or other de-stress activities. Plan to be with the people you enjoy. Get plenty of sleep and watch what you eat. Avoid excessive alcohol consumption. Keep a diary or journal of feelings, and how you and the family are coping.

Be careful not to isolate yourself.

It’s important to take time for yourself while staying open to the support of family and friends.

Avoid additional stress.

Decide what you really want to do, and what can be avoided.

Limit social gatherings.

Choose only to attend the ones that give you more comfort than stress. Be willing to leave a holiday function early if you become uncomfortable.

Remember the deceased.

Make a holiday donation to a charitable organization in their memory. Share photos and memories. Include your baby in your conversations and celebrations.

Do something for others.

Volunteer at a soup kitchen. Ask someone who is alone to share the day with your family. Provide help for a needy family. Volunteer in a hospital on the holiday. Helping others may help you feel good.

When coping with grief during the holidays, it is important to realize that not everyone grieves the same way or finds comfort in the same things.

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