Drying Up Your Milk

The arrival of breast milk can be very challenging for a bereaved mother.

The birth of your baby stimulates hormones that tell your body to make milk. Milk will usually come around 3-5 days after delivery. Your breasts may feel fuller and may leak milk. Stimulating your breasts will tell your body to keep making milk, but your milk supply will go away if your body does not receive those signals.

Some bereaved mothers find breast milk to be upsetting and want to get rid of it as quickly as possible. Some mothers find the milk to be a comforting reminder of their body’s ability to care for the baby they love. There is no right or wrong way to feel. Your grief and body changes can be overwhelming; be kind to yourself as you begin to heal, and choose the path that is right for you.

Interactive Module – Lactation After a Loss

Tips for Drying Up Your Breast Milk

• It will take a few days for your milk to dry up. If your breasts are soft and you have just a little colostrum/milk, do not stimulate the breast tissue or nipple areas.
• To help with pain and swelling:
  • Take acetaminophen (Tylenol) or ibuprofen (Advil).
  • Put cold packs on your breasts. You can use an ice pack or put ice in a plastic bag. Be sure to put a thin cloth (like a dishcloth or pillowcase) between the ice pack and your breasts.
  • Use cold cabbage leaves (wash fresh cabbage and refrigerate it; pull off one leaf at a time and lay them over your breasts; keep the leaves on your skin until they get soft).
  • Apply CaboCreme to your breasts every 2 to 4 hours. This creme has an enzyme from cabbage that helps with pain relief.
  • Wear a well-fitting and supportive bra for several days, even while you sleep.
  • When standing in the shower, do not let the water hit your breasts directly. Turn your back and let the water run over your shoulders.
  • Try not to touch or massage your breasts. If you are very uncomfortable, you can gently massage your breasts for a few minutes to let some milk out, but only until your breasts soften. Do not pump or empty your breasts completely.
• To help dry up your milk supply:
  • Drink one mug of sage or peppermint tea 3 or 4 times per day, for 2 to 3 days.
    • You can find peppermint tea bags at the grocery store.
    • You can use fresh sage leaves or sage extract to make sage tea.
  • Pseudoephedrine (Sudafed) can help dry up your milk, but ask your doctor before using this medicine, and do not take it if you have kidney or thyroid problems, or if you have glaucoma.
  • Take Benadryl as directed on the package. This medication may make you sleepy.
  • If you plan to resume birth control pills, ask your doctor about pills that contain estrogen.
• When to call your doctor:
  • You have redness.
  • Your pain is getting worse.
  • You have a fever (temperature of 100.4 or higher).
• Who to call with questions:
  • Your doctor.
  • Lactation services (501-526-3558).
• Remember that your colostrum/milk will go away, but it may take a few days. Be patient.

Milk Donation

If you are interested in milk donation, you can find more information through the UAMS Milk Bank: https://uamshealth.com/uams-milk-bank/bereavement/